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by Jody
Mon Apr 25, 2011 11:24 pm
Forum: From Heartache to Healing
Topic: Chapter 3: Colleen: The Sacred Act of Holding Nothing Back..
Replies: 0
Views: 1720

Chapter 3: Colleen: The Sacred Act of Holding Nothing Back..

FHTH page 25 Yes, you heard me correctly. It really is okay for you to admit to Heavenly Father that you’re mad at Him, or at the very least, that you’re really confused and frustrated toward Him and His “great plan of happiness.”2 Learning this was huge for me. I didn’t remember that from taking th...
by Jody
Mon Apr 25, 2011 10:59 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Courage and Truth
Replies: 1
Views: 3397

Courage and Truth

The last two meetings I went to spoke a lot about courage and truth. Well, that got me thinking about those two topics. In a lot of ways they go together. I have learned a lot about courage in the last two years. It took so much courage to pick up the phone and finally call S-Anon to find the meetin...
by Jody
Fri Apr 08, 2011 12:58 pm
Forum: From Heartache to Healing
Topic: Chapter 3: At War Against a Common Enemy
Replies: 1
Views: 1723

Chapter 3: At War Against a Common Enemy

from page 21, FHTH When a home has been invaded by p~rnography or another s~xual sin, the very foundations of a marriage can be shaken. Both partners look at the other as the source of their pain and suffering. She looks at him and says, “How could you bring such trash into our home, into our lives?...
by Jody
Fri Apr 01, 2011 9:22 am
Forum: From Heartache to Healing
Topic: Chapter 2: Colleen: Please Seek Help for Yourself
Replies: 0
Views: 1508

Chapter 2: Colleen: Please Seek Help for Yourself

from FHTH You need to seek help for yourself. You’re hurting. You need to take care of your own mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health, no matter what your husband does....Run, don’t walk—no matter how bad it hurts—to your nearest priesthood leader, whether your husband agrees or knows. T...
by Jody
Fri Apr 01, 2011 8:59 am
Forum: From Heartache to Healing
Topic: Chapter 2: Accepting the Diagnosis of Addiction
Replies: 0
Views: 1434

Chapter 2: Accepting the Diagnosis of Addiction

page 16 From Heartache To Healing It may be very hard to accept the diagnosis of your husband’s problem as an addiction. To use that word makes it sound so serious. But for me, it was a great blessing to identify exactly what I was dealing with. Calling the problem an addiction is no worse than call...
by Jody
Thu Mar 31, 2011 1:39 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Good grief...
Replies: 2
Views: 3650

Dear hopeful, One of the great things about working the steps is that we realize more easily when we have lost our sanity. Just like our husband’s we too slip. When we reacting instead of responding we realize it sooner. We have come to know that we have no control of our spouses s~xual addiction, w...
by Jody
Tue Mar 29, 2011 10:35 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Starting Over Again
Replies: 3
Views: 1956

Thanks Phil. I think that is a great response.

I just pray that he’ll tell me if I ever need to be concerned for my health. I believe with all my heart that I deserve to know that.

Thanks again.
by Jody
Tue Mar 29, 2011 1:07 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Starting Over Again
Replies: 3
Views: 1956

Starting Over Again

On Sunday, my husband and I were talking. Somehow we got on the topic of trust. I told him how I just didn’t trust him because he is notforthcoming when he slips. I went on to tell him that he had probably had more slips and hadn’t told me since our last talk. He just nodded his head. As our talk co...
by Jody
Fri Mar 25, 2011 10:43 am
Forum: From Heartache to Healing
Topic: Chapter 2: The Enemy Has Infiltrated Our Ranks
Replies: 0
Views: 1373

Chapter 2: The Enemy Has Infiltrated Our Ranks

Page 11, From Heartache To Healing Satan not only desires your husband’s downfall. He desires the downfall of you, your children, and your children’s children, as well. With this understanding, it can provide some comfort to know that the prophets of God have foreseen the battle in which we find our...
by Jody
Wed Mar 23, 2011 12:52 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: What is love?
Replies: 1
Views: 1507

What is love?

What is love? That was our topic at my meeting last night. Wow! What a question. I don’t know if I know what love is...at least not true human love. From my earliest recollection all I knew about love was that those who were supposed to love me hurt me. Thus love hurt. Not having the gospel...I didn...
by Jody
Tue Mar 22, 2011 1:18 pm
Forum: Clutter and Disorganization
Topic: Emotional Clutter
Replies: 0
Views: 3210

Emotional Clutter

This weekend we were talking to our eldest daughter and I realized something. I don’t think we have taught our kids how to deal with emotional clutter. How do you deal with everything that happens to you? It is a good question. What do you do when you are hurt, sad, lonely, confused, happy, etc. I k...
by Jody
Sun Mar 20, 2011 11:26 pm
Forum: From Heartache to Healing
Topic: Chapter 1: Where To Start
Replies: 3
Views: 3950

Remembering

On March 31st, it will be two years ago that my husband disclosed his addiction. My sponsor told me that anniversaries can sometimes bring up things that we still need to process. She said that anniversaries can be hard on us all. I was thinking back to that night. A night I will never forget. We we...
by Jody
Sat Mar 19, 2011 12:02 pm
Forum: From Heartache to Healing
Topic: Chapter 1: Where To Start
Replies: 3
Views: 3950

Chapter 1: Where To Start

The beginning. I think we will all remember “D” day or disclosure day. For me it was the day my husband disclosed to me all that he had done in the first twelve and a half years of our marriage. I was in complete and utter shock. Time stood still. I was lost. Being the type of person I am - I decide...
by Jody
Wed Mar 09, 2011 1:04 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Group Conscience
Replies: 2
Views: 1618

Group Conscience

At my S-Anon meeting last night our topic was Group Conscience. What a great topic. It really made me stop and think. As I have stated before I grew up in an abusive home. My father was very overbearing – screaming, poking you in the chest, and finally hitting you on the head. My mother would first ...
by Jody
Fri Mar 04, 2011 8:44 am
Forum: Spouses of S~x Addicts
Topic: Answer to prayers...
Replies: 3
Views: 2244

That is so great. Each time I read From Heartache to Healing - I learn something new. I’m so glad you found a meeting to attend. I love my S-Anon meeting. My only suggestion is that you go six times before you make a decision about if S-Anon if for you. I have met some members that do not like S-Ano...